Monday, November 09, 2015

Year Four - Year End Review

Oh, my darling boy,
Four. Say whaaaaaaa?

While I spend time processing that you're now four, here are your Top 10 Lists:

10 Things You're Good At:
  • Drawing egg-shaped people
  • Going underwater in the pool
  • Laying on the charm super thick. You'll come out of your room after bedtime ("Thou shalt not leave thy bed after thy hath been tucketh inneth" is the 11th commandment) and right before I send you back to your room, you'll cock your head to the side, show your dimples, and say "I just wanted to tell you that I love you and that you're pretty." Ack.
  • Emptying the dishwasher. It's the one chore that you and Natalie have to do together. I'm all about forced teamwork.
  • Sleeping. I really miss your afternoon naptime (I think you gave it this past year) but you're very consistent about sleeping well at night.
  • Sweating. If the temperature is above 70 and/or you exert the slightest physical effort, you look like you've just run a marathon.
  • Speaking of running a marathon, you're really good at running. I had no idea until you asked me to race you from one end of our street to the other. And you booked it the entire way. I still won, in case you were wondering. I'll let you win another day but I think it's good for you to know that for now, your old mom can still whip you.
  • Holding the door open for ladies. Chivalry is not dead with Team Smith. 
  • Being cautious. I'm rarely concerned when I hear "Hey Mommy, watch this!" 
  • Picking up lyrics in songs. Thank goodness for Christian radio.
10 Things You're NOT Good At:
  • Writing any curved letters, specifically the C and R in your name. Maybe Natalie wrote so well when she was younger because her name is just composed of straight lines. We should have named you HALIE
  • Trying new food
  • Emptying the dishwasher effeciently. It should take less than 15 minutes for you two to finish, but when you add it the towel fights that you instigate and your insistence upon wearing the dishtowel over your face while trying to find the plates increases that time two fold.
  • Sweeping. You might be good at hockey considering how hard you propel the crumbs with the broom.
  • Losing. You act like your life is over when you lose. 
  • Brushing your teeth. You either hardly touch your toothbrush to your teeth (and just swirl it around your open mouth) or your spit out all the toothpaste within the first two seconds or you spend the majority of your time making toothpaste spit bubbles. It's rarely an productive endeavor.
  • Differential equations. Just like your sister. 
  • Washing your dishes after a meal. You're an expert at (unnecessarily) scrubbing the clean parts of your plate but you forget the dirty parts.
  • Remembering to unbutton your shirt before pulling it over your head. I often find you with your shirt half-off your head (which you gives you a head of super cool shirt-hair), wailing because you're stuck.
  • Making your bed. I get it, it's hard to make the bed if you're too short to do it without being ON the bed.
10 Things You Love:
  • Natalie
  • Preschool - your teachers, your classmates, everything
  • Baths. Yes, you read that right. After 3.5 long and loud and teary years, you've finally decided that baths are pretty awesome
  • Animals. Yes, you read that right, too. You're still nervous around unleashed dogs but you've grown leaps and bounds this year
  • Peeing standing up. Oh, the perks of being male
  • Music. Your current faves are MercyMe, Matt Maher, Lauren Daigle, and your mom. Just kidding on the last one. You think I sing too loudly. Too bad for you.
  • Publix, because free cookies
  • Curious George, Odd Squad, and Mickey Mouse
  • Any and all superheroes, but Batman and Iron Man are your favorites.
  • Books. Just like Natalie, you have no fewer than five books in you bed that you look at before you go to sleep.
10 Things You Don't Love:
  • Veggies (other than the occasional piece of broccoli, maybe a carrot or two, and yellow and orange bell peppers)
  • Any chicken that's not fried and nugget-shaped or roasted in drumstick form. I could cut off the chicken from the aforementioned roasted drumstick and you'd refuse to eat it. But keep it on the bone and you're a happy camper.
  • Soup. Which is a crying shame because your mom makes the best chicken noodle soup. And you don't know that because you're a punk who won't try it.
  • Spending Quiet Time by yourself. You'd much prefer a joint Quiet Time with your sister. To you, a solo Quiet Time is "BOH-win" (boring).
  • Gnats. I don't know if they're attracted to the sight and/or smell of Sweaty Boy, but you poor thing. When we're outside, your face is swarming with gnats.
  • Ice cream - but strangely enough, only on days I'm serving something for dinner that you don't like (because no dessert for those who don't eat dinner). Amazingly though, you decide to like it again the next night when I serve something for dinner you DO like
  • Taking turns. Thankfully you're getting better, but there are still times when you and Natalie have to take turns and you melt down into a sobby, whiny puddle.
  • Getting your hair cut. I mean, you don't *hate* it, and you're usually excited about it before it happens. But once you sit in the chair, you become the quietest, most sullen kid on the planet.
  • Going to the bathroom if it wasn't your idea. "I don't WAAAAAAAANT to pee! I don't HAAAAAAAAAVE to pee! I don't LIIIIIIIIKE to pee!"
  • Being bossed around by Natalie. For the record, neither do I.

I've always said that I love each new stage more than the previous:
  • sitting up > the newborn lump phase
  • crawling > immobile
  • walking > crawling
  • talking > not talking
  • twos > ones
and so on

Your twos were pretty mild compared to the wild banshee twos that your dear sister experienced. Your threes, however, were a little less mild. You cried more this past year than you had in all your other years combined. You cried over e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. But still, even with all that catterwalling, I liked your threes more than twos. Your personality exploded this year (amidst all the sobbing, of course) and I loved having a front row seat. You've always been a pretty affectionate kid but you really laid it on thick this year. Practically every hug you give is a gigantic bear hug. Strangers at the grocery store are often on the receiving end of your dimpled-smile-and-wave combo. You surprise Natalie and me with random kisses throughout the day. You like holding my hand. All of that adds up to one very full Mommy heart.

For a consistently cheerful boy, you are also consistently grumpy (and often sweaty, but that's neither here nor there) when you wake up in the morning. (And on the flip side, your feel-all-the-feelings sister wakes up cheerfully without exception.) You stumble out into the living room wearing a furrowed brow and pouty lips and crawl into my lap for a snuggle. Your morning grumpiness is usually short-lived, however, as talks of yummy breakfast food can bring anyone out of their early morning funk. [I'd like to add that if a certain boy would eat dinner that a certain momma works very hard to prepare, the boy might not be so grumpy the next morning as he would not have gone to bed with just water in his belly. Just a thought.]

I confess that I have become accustomed to your sweet personality, and I've neglected to be consistent in my prayers for you. It's not uncommon to forget to pray when things (ie: you) are going well. One of my greatest privileges is to pray for you and Natalie, and I've slacked off a bit with you. But I'm going on the record to say that will change because you need a momma who prays for you. Prayers to protect you, to guide you, to draw you closer to Him. Prayers to heal you, to encourage you, to remind you who you are (and Whose you are). And maybe, just maybe, prayers that you'll eat your dinner.

Hugs and smooches,
Mommy & Daddy

Month 48 - Recap

My dearest Bear,
You're FOUR! Yay!

In keeping with being in a gigantic nerd family (you're welcome, by the way. Or is it, I'm sorry? Eh, either way.), you've become fascinated by Rube Goldberg videos on YouTube. You and Natalie could spend hours watching them all. During Quiet Time the other day, you made one of your own. You (or Natalie) tied one end of your yo-yo string onto the handle of one of your dresser drawers. You tied the other end of the string to the handle of your closet door. When you closed your closet, your drawer slid open. The look on your face was priceless. Also, you pronounce Rube Goldberg like "Rude Goldbird". So now I'm picturing a bunch of YouTube videos of a gold-colored bird making unkind gestures at me with his wing and calling me names.

It's become glaringly obvious to me over the past few months that we have a problem. Well, you have a problem ... and that is that you don't like hanging out in your jammies. You want to get dressed as soon as you wake up. This just baffles my jammie-loving self to no end. How can you NOT like jammies? They're God's gift to the clothing industry. It's as if He said "To balance out this world that's full of buttons, snaps, clasps, and zippers, I will also gift to you a wonderful assortment of elastic waistbanded cottony goodness." Now sometimes the clothes you pick are the identical twin to jammies (exercise shorts and t-shirt) but sometimes you actively seek out a plethora of buttons and zippers as opposed to staying in your elasticky dinosaur-clad cotton delights. Now I totally appreciate this on the days we have to be out of the house before noon. I rarely have to tell you to get dressed. But on the wonderfully rainy days where we have exactly zero plans outside of the house, Natalie and I could hang out in jammies all the livelong day. Because why wouldn't you? But for some reason, the idea does not appeal to you. And I am flabbergasted.

We had your birthday party yesterday. This was the first year we had a 'real' birthday party for you, which means, of course, because of who I am, I was a mess of panicky nerves because entertaining and party-throwing are so far out of my comfort zone. But God is gracious and you are sweet - you loved my feeble attempt at decorating, you were so appreciative of the non-Pinterest-worthy racecar cake that I made, and you were tickled by the picture collage I put together ("Look at me, Momma! I was such a cute baby!"). You finally got your heart's desire - a bow and arrow. After one shot, Daddy and I agreed that we have to go back to the store and buy three more. Cuz Team Smith is gonna throw down with a Bow and Arrow competition. You also got a dump truck (that Natalie picked out herself), a train (a Hogwarts Express ... BOOM), a Lego Batman shirt (cuz, duh), and a bike (brand new from a consignment sale!). All of those presents were great, no doubt. But the one you love the most? The one you played with for hours, carried around the entire afternoon and put on your bedside table at night so it'll be close to you? The one that Uncle Mike bought you because he knew it'd drive me bananas? A Minion fart gun. Ah yes, you are now the proud owner of a digital Whoopie cushion. Uncle Mike and Aunt KK even included extra batteries! In case the original ones run out! We have extra! So awesome! *eyeroll*

Hugs and smooches,
Mommy & Daddy

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Headlines for November 9, 2015:
  • At least 1 reported dead, 2 wounded in subway shooting near NYC's Penn Station
  • University of Missouri faculty call for class walkout amid protests, football team boycott
  • Obama, Netanyahu Look to Mend Fractured Relationship
  • Could Drone Delivery Really Take Off? Experts Weigh In
  • Georgia Cop Helps Fallen Runner Finish Half-Marathon

Monday, November 02, 2015

October 2015 - Recap

My sweet girl,
We've been doing this homeschooling gig for over 14 months and it's taken this long for someone to ask me why you weren't in school. We were at Winn Dixie a few weeks ago and an elderly lady (I only include this description because I don't believe homeschooling is as understood or accepted by grandparent-aged folks as it is by younger folks) looked at you. Then looked back at me. Then looked at you again. Then narrowed her eyes and asked "Why isn't she in school?" [I assume she thought that because you didn't look sick and I clearly wasn't dressed for an office job (unless some company's dress code is non-excercised-in exercise shorts and a t-shirt?) that there had to be some strange reason why you weren't in school]. I smiled at her and told her I homeschooled you. She looked a little confused, almost like she couldn't decide whether to respond with a "How nice" or an "I'm sorry." Instead, she just said "Well ... ok then." I laughed (on the inside, of course) and you and I walked out of the store, headed to spend Girl Time (the time after school is done and before we pick Charlie up from preschool) at the bookstore. You may not be in 'regular' school, my peach, but what we do works for us. And I'm tickled to get to spend quality time with you.

I read something by Lysa TerKeurst a few years ago about things she always prays for her children. One of them was "I pray they always get caught making the wrong decisions." I liked that. I liked that it wasn't "I pray they won't make wrong decisions", because let's be for real. You'll make wrong decisions. I'm guessing you'll make plenty of them. But I want you to get caught doing them so that they won't be done in secret, won't be kept from Daddy and me, won't give you a false sense of security that comes from unconfessed sins. So I've been praying that prayer over you and Charlie for a while now, and it paid off last week. I had been playing with Charlie when he quickly walked off to find something. Right then, I overheard you telling something to somebody that you had no business saying. No business at all. Ten years ago, I would have chalked it up to a coincidence. Now I know it was the Lord answering my prayer. It was a great (and of course teary) teachable moment. Moments like this are a huge encouragement to me as someone who questions every parenting move she makes.

You were sick over Halloween. I'm so grateful that neither you nor Charlie get sick often, particularly because the level of whininess when you're sick is off the charts. You had a fever and had zero energy. I knew you must have felt bad because you didn't even fuss when Charlie got on his costume to go trick-or-treating with Daddy. You just lifted your head up from my lap, half-smiled at Batman, then laid your head back down. I put the bowl of candy on our front porch with a note that said "Please don't ring the doorbell - our daughter is sick" so I wouldn't have to asnwer the door. There are some sweet kids in our neighborhood because 1) I heard some of them comment on how sad it was that you were sick on Halloween and 2) there was still candy left at the end of the night. So there wasn't a kid who dumped the whole bowl into his bag. Charlie brought back a pretty good haul and made sure you saw there was some pink Starbursts for you. You've got a sweet brother. And he has an amazing sister.

Hugs and smooches,
Mommy & Daddy

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Headlines for November 1, 2015:
  • Republican Campaigns Lay Out Debate Demands
  • Metrojet Crash: What Could Cause a Plane to Break Up in Midair?
  • Bernie Sanders Spends Over $2 Million on First TV Ad
  • Royals Beat Mets, 7-2, to Win First World Series in 30 Years
  • Ex-Senator, 'Law & Order' Actor Fred Thompson Dies
  • Chipotle-Linked E. Coli Outbreak: 'Jump in Cases' Expected